The holiday season can be a challenging time for divorced parents and their children. As
family law attorneys, it is our duty to ensure that care and contact arrangements are
handled with sensitivity, keeping the best interests of the children at the forefront. Here
are some key considerations to help navigate this period smoothly:
1. Early Planning and Communication
Start discussions about holiday schedules well in advance. This allows both parents to
plan accordingly and reduces last-minute conflicts. Refer to your parenting agreement or court order as a baseline, but be open to adjustments that accommodate special plans or traditions.
In matters where there is no parenting agreement or court order, it is best to rely on the
recommendations of psychologists and social workers to determine reasonable
and fair contact over the festive period.
2. Prioritising the Childs Well-being
Consider the age and preferences of the children. Younger children may need more
stability and routine, while older children might have specific wishes about how they
spend their holidays. Listening to their voices will assist in making emotionally supportive arrangements.
3. Flexibility and Compromise
While adhering to agreed schedules is important, flexibility can go a long way in
ensuring a harmonious holiday season. If one parent requests a change, try to
accommodate it, and expect the same consideration in return.
4. Clear and Positive Communication
Maintain open lines of communication with your co-parent. Discuss any changes or
concerns calmly and respectfully. This sets a positive example for the children and helps
reduce their stress during the holidays.
5. Legal Considerations
Ensure that any changes to the custody arrangement are documented and agreed upon
by both parties. This helps in avoiding misunderstandings and further conflict.
6. Creating New Traditions
Parents are encouraged to create new holiday traditions that can be enjoyed in both
households. This can help children feel more secure and excited about the holidays,
despite the changes in family dynamics.
7. Professional Support
Sometimes, the holiday season can bring up unresolved emotions for both parents and
children. Suggesting professional support, such as counselling, can be beneficial in
navigating these feelings and ensuring a positive holiday experience for everyone
involved.
By focusing on these principles, we can help our clients create a holiday environment
that is joyful and stress-free for their children, despite the challenges of divorce.
Remember, the goal is to ensure that the children feel loved and secure, no matter how
the holiday schedule is arranged.
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